Best Basic Sex Positions
One of the most common areas that I address with new sex coaching clients is positions. Not all positions work for all clients. For example, I have had a client with partial paralysis who could only use one position, so in their case I just taught them how to use it more effectively. But most of my clients benefit from having 2-4 go-to positions. Here are some of the best ones.
New Course and Articles
Over the past few weeks, I have finally gotten around to finishing a slew of articles. For a teaser, the image above is from one of those articles. We are in the process of overhauling our marketing strategies, so we may not be posting all of these articles on our social media accounts. If you want to keep up with these articles then please subscribe to our mailing list. Here are some of the upcoming article titles…
Can Catholics Have Sex While Pregnant?
In general, yes, it is morally permissible for Catholics to have sex while the wife is pregnant. There are, however, exceptions and certain considerations that have to be made.
Exploring Erogenous Zones
An erogenous zone (EZ) refers to an area of the human body that, when stimulated, can elicit sexual arousal and pleasure. These zones comprise about 24% of the human body. Many of these zones have no anatomical link to the genitals, and sometimes orgasm can even be achieved through stimulation of these extra-genital erogenous zones. Although generally the same for both men and women, EZs can vary from person to person in terms of sensitivity and preferred methods of stimulation. Below are a few examples with tips for stimulating them.
Extended Availability for Catholic Marriage and Intimacy Coaching
We're thrilled to announce that our Catholic marriage and intimacy coaching services, led by James Walther, are now available with extended hours to better serve our clients! We're implementing these extended hours as a trial run until at least March 15, 2024. Whether you're a busy professional or a parent with limited free time, we aim to accommodate your schedule.
Masturbation in Marriage
Masturbation is per se (i.e., in and of itself) gravely sinful. This means that it is always sinful, including in marriage. Since we started Catholic Intimacy, many people have contacted me to ask whether one or another act was masturbatory or if masturbation would be allowed in x, y, or z situations. So, hopefully, if you are here with a question like that, this article will clarify things.
What Do I Have to Offer?
Here’s the big question: what do you have to offer? In other words, why should anyone want to commit themselves to you exclusively for life? That’s a million-dollar question.
Everyone has a type, i.e., certain characteristics that they find attractive. We all know (or knew) what characteristics we are (were) looking for in our spouse. We tend to have pretty lofty ideals. But let’s flip that around. If our future spouse is as magnificent as we imagine, then should we not expect that they too have high standards for who they want to be with? Do we meet the criteria of someone that meets our criteria?
Getting Frisky: Incomplete Sexual Acts
From a Reader: Please help us in clarifying a long standing confusion. Is it sinful for spouses to orally and manually stimulate each other’s genitals while abstaining from full marital union?
Expanding Our Horizons: Introducing Online Catholic Intimacy Coaching
In light of these evolving needs, we're excited to share with you and get your feedback on a project – the introduction of online Catholic Intimacy Coaching.
First and foremost, it's important to clarify that intimacy coaching is a form of personal coaching or counseling that focuses on helping individuals or couples improve their emotional, physical, and psychological intimacy in relationships.
Response: Stripper Fantasy?
From a reader: Is it a sin to have a fantasy of my wife as a stripper? Is it sinful for my wife to strip for me with the end being intercourse?
Sexual Intimacy for the Elderly
Sexual intimacy is a beautiful and meaningful aspect of life that transcends age. For the elderly, engaging in sexual intimacy can bring a renewed sense of closeness and connection with their spouse. While physical changes may occur with age, such as decreased libido or physical limitations, emotional intimacy remains a vital source of intimacy for the elderly. It is important to acknowledge and address any concerns or challenges related to sexual intimacy in this stage of life, seeking professional guidance if necessary. With open communication, patience, and understanding, couples can find ways to continue nurturing their bond through sexual intimacy, ensuring that their love and connection remain strong and fulfilling throughout their golden years.
Can Catholics Have Sex During the Wife’s Menstrual Period?
Historically, it was believed that children conceived during the menstrual period were usually, if not always, afflicted with blindness, lameness, leprosy, etc. Saint Thomas Aquinas writes that this ban was in place, not only for the ceremonial reason, but also because of the harm that would befall the children conceived.
Addressing Conflict in Marriage
The good news is that when you practice healthy conflict, you can have healthy conflict and these patterns of behavior don’t have to continue or define your relationship.
Respecting the No
So in the moment, do we swallow our pride and accept the no, trusting that our husband has the best interest of the household in mind and it can be discussed later for some understanding, or do we fight back and attempt to emasculate our husband’s role as head of household, interfering with the good work the Lord is doing in Him to lead your household?
Is Sex During Lent Sinful?
Right before Lent, both Megan and I noticed a little buzz in various Catholic Facebook groups about whether or not Catholics are allowed to have sex during Lent, on feast days, or fast days. It seems that most married couples understand that there are currently no formal Church disciplines concerning this matter, but some did seem sincerely confused as to the current practice.
Buy the Stinking Roses
How quickly can we burn through $7? Coffee, soda, snacks, beer, etc. many of us might spend $7 on our way to or from work without hardly thinking about it. Now if it’s a choice between feeding your kids and buying roses, then I’m not saying to neglect your kids. But if you have some discretionary funds, treat your spouse to something special every now and then. When you stop for that coffee, skip the snacks and buy a rose.
Pius XI on the Greatness of Marriage
How great a boon of God this is, and how great a blessing of matrimony is clear from a consideration of man's dignity and of his sublime end. For man surpasses all other visible creatures by the superiority of his rational nature alone.
Heightening Your Senses: Introducing Blindfolds to the Bedroom
Have you ever noticed how when you cannot see all of your other senses seem heightened? Our brains can only process so much input, so they are forced to selectively prioritize sensations. By removing input from one sense, we allow others to take center stage. Think about enjoying the first sip of a fine wine or first bite of exquisite chocolate. We often instinctively close our eyes and focus our attention on our sense of taste.
Vatican II on Marriage and the Family
Through this union they experience the meaning of their oneness and attain to it with growing perfection day by day. As a mutual gift of two persons, this intimate union and the good of the children impose total fidelity on the spouses and argue for an unbreakable oneness between them.
Pius XII on Pleasure
The same Creator, Who in His bounty and wisdom willed to make use of the work of man and woman, by uniting them in matrimony, for the preservation and propagation of the human race, has also decreed that in this function the parties should experience pleasure and happiness of body and spirit. Husband and wife, therefore, by seeking and enjoying this pleasure do no wrong whatever. They accept what the Creator has destined for them.