Catholic Sex Coaching

When was the last time you and your spouse had great sex?

When was the last time you and your spouse were both able to climax?

When was the last time you felt deeply connected to your spouse?

If your answer to any of the above questions is something like “Never,” “It's been so long I can't remember,” or “That was months/years ago,” and you are ready to change that, then sex coaching may be right for you.

It's time to stop settling for mediocre or bad sex.

It's time to stop going through the motions of being married.

It's time to get on with your happily ever after.

Testimonials

Whitney D.

“We went from just coexisting to meeting each other again, and now we're living with a renewed sense of purpose. I used to see sex as an obligation that I had to fulfill, but now it's something that I look forward to and enjoy a lot - just like when we were newly married and without children lol.”

Young Catholic Wife and Mother

“James is an understanding, non judgmental, and motivating coach in every way. He offers many ideas to find solutions and helps you work through whatever you want to accomplish.”

Lukas and Jessica

“My wife and I tried so hard timing a child that sex became a chore. When we were successful, her body changed, and the act became uncomfortable. We heard that sex was good while pregnant for the body and relationship and we needed advice. Many of the online resources were in opposition to our faith and we are so glad we found Catholic Intimacy. We immediately related to James as he was of our faith, a former teacher, and soon to have children himself. Building a sexual vocabulary with him has helped my wife and I into different positions to enjoy sex again through pregnancy and into postpartum. We are so glad we did the block package because we realized that sex can be a reflection of how our relationship is and he has continued to help us grow closer together outside of the bedroom.”

My Credentials

James Walther, MA, ABS

Catholic Sex Coach

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About Me

As a professional Catholic Sex Coach, I am passionate about guiding people to deeper intimacy in their marriages. With a foundation rooted in my education in Catholic theology, further studies in marriage and family therapy, and sexology certification, I bring a unique perspective to the realm of sex coaching. My approach is holistic, addressing all facets of intimacy—physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual—recognizing their interconnectedness in fostering fulfilling relationships. Whether clients are grappling with physical intimacy issues stemming from a lack of emotional intimacy or those rooted in physical or mental health conditions, I provide personalized guidance and support to help them navigate their journey towards deeper intimacy within the framework of Catholic moral teachings.

- BA - Double Major in Philosophy and Theology (Magna Cum Laude) from Holy Apostles College and Seminary
- MA - Theology, Dogmatic Theology (Summa Cum Laude) from Holy Apostles College and Seminary
- Certified Catholic Life Coach from Catholic Coach Training
- Member of Catholic Life Coaches (profile)
- Graduate Certificate in Counseling, Systemic Couple and Family Therapy from Capella University
- Certified Sexologist from the American Board of Sexology (verify)
- Currently studying sex therapy at the Sexual Health Alliance

The Essential Parts of Marital Intimacy

An interpersonal state of closeness based on complementary spiritual beliefs, values, and practices.
- Beliefs - Shared profession of faith
- Values - Shared understanding of morality/ right and wrong
- Practices - Shared/compatible worship, prayers, rites, and devotions
An interpersonal state of closeness based on complementary goals, interests, and intelligence.
- Goals - Shared/compatible long and short-term goals, both for self and family
- Interests - Shared/compatible interests, hobbies, and projects
- Intelligence - Comparable intelligence, such that each spouse mentally stimulates the other.
An interpersonal state of closeness based on trust, communication, empathy, and vulnerability.
- Trust - True intimacy is only possible with deep trust.
- Communication - Freely sharing thoughts and feelings and attentive reception.
- Empathy - Bearing each other’s sufferings personally with compassion and tenderness.
- Vulnerability - Laying bear your wounds and insecurities to your spouse.
An interpersonal state of closeness based on mutual attraction, affection, and sexual connection.
- Mutual attraction - A spouse who is repulsed by their spouse will not have deep physical intimacy with them.
- Affection - this mutual attraction and love expresses itself in frequent sexual and non-sexual touches, kisses, looks, words, etc.
- Sexual connection - Both spouses feel that their needs are met and that sex draws them closer together.

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Will You Work With Us?

While most of my clients Catholic married couples, you do not have to be Catholic or even married to meet with me. I will help any adult to grow in their relationships.

I will work with one spouse alone, if the other is not ready for coaching.
I can work with spouses individually.
I also offer pre-marriage and pre-courtship coaching.
I have experience coaching everyone from people still discerning marriage to couples in their seventies.

Do We Really Need This?

That’s a great question! The difference between a want and a need often comes down to whether you're willing to accept the status quo. You might not need coaching in the sense that your marriage is on the brink—but ask yourself, are you truly satisfied with where things are now? Small struggles in intimacy don’t stay small. Over time, misunderstandings grow, distance widens, sexual frustration festers, and what could have been a source of joy turns into a source of frustration.

The real question is: Are you okay living the rest of your marriage exactly as it is today?

If the answer is no, then why wait? Investing in your intimacy now means investing in a stronger, more connected, and more fulfilling future together. Coaching isn’t about fixing what’s broken—it’s about making the good even better and ensuring your marriage thrives in every way.

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